We live in a world where the unforgivable sin is tell someone they’ve messed up.
It seems the most popular three words are “Don’t judge me”.
However, if you love someone, is it a good thing to let them continue going down a harmful road? So often today we find ourselves doing just that because we don’t want to risk hurting anyone’s feelings. It’s easier to look the other way rather than confront a problem.
If you are like me, you HATE confrontation. But sometimes it is necessary. Especially for Christians.
If we see someone trapped in a sinful behavior, we are to go to them IN LOVE and help them get back on the right path.
This doesn’t mean going to someone with an attitude of superiority or self-righteousness. Rather, go to them humbly, acknowledging ourself to be a fellow sinner, making sure we don’t have a plank in our eye before removing our brother’s speck.
John MacArthur says that the one doing the “restoring” should be living in such a way that exhibits the fruit of the Spirit. Among these are kindness, gentleness, and patience. You shouldn’t expect your approach to be well-received if you come across as irritated and harsh.
MacArthur also says that the word for“restore” has the meaning of “mending” or “repairing a broken bone”.
Our end goal in going to someone who is caught in sin isn’t to finger-point and degrade them. The goal is always to restore them to right fellowship with God and the church. There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a broken one restored.
It is also imperative for us to be willing to RECEIVE correction from someone if it is needed. Being on the receiving end of rebuke, even if done gently, can be very difficult. This is where we must not let our pride get in the way of correction that may be necessary.
Correction for the Christian must be both given AND received in love, if our goal is ultimately for Christ to be glorified in us, and for all believers being in right relationship with God and our Christian community.